Why people hate themselves? - Smiley Reader
July 07, 2020 |
| Why people hate themselves? |
What is the definition of hate?
When we feel intense dislike for something or someone is called hate.
Why do people hate themselves?
There is a lot of reasons why people could hate themselves. But one of the most important reasons why people hate themselves is low-self-esteem. The relation between you and your inner self is really weak than the other relationship you have. Because we don't trust ourselves enough. If any person told us that they don't like our act or work. We instantly become insecure about it. We don’t have enough trust in ourselves to say that “it’s ok if you don’t like. I will try again and show you an even better version of this work or anything you’ve mentioned”.
Well, we all have insecurities. It’s normal! We all feel insecure one or another time. Some people can control their insecurities and live with it. Cause they know that no one is perfect. Everyone has flows. They will make a mistake but they will also learn from that and next time will try not to do the same mistake again. But the problem of this insecurity is, some people can’t control it. With every mistake, the insecurity starts to grow in them. At some point, the insecurity takes all over in their mind and it makes them feel like they’re not good enough or they never can do anything well. And this is when they start to hate themself.
Another reason for self-hate is comparing yourself to other people. Everyone has a different life, struggle, and imperfections. The problem of comparison is a simple “I’ll never look like her” can quickly spiral into “I’ll never be good enough for anyone” You will look into the mirror and the same thought will be back. You will start to overthink. This will cause you to hate yourself, depression, and frustration.
So, please don’t do that. The thing you’re good at, your friend might not be good at that or maybe your friend has something which you don’t have. nobody can be perfect. Everyone has flows. The people you see as perfect is not actually perfect. They just show you one side of them. You don’t know their whole story. They also feel insecure and fight battle just like you. So, try to be grateful for what you have.
Who can help people from hating themselves?
In this case, most can help is the parents. The attitude of parents plays a big role in people’s self-confidence or low self-esteem. For example, A is a good student and she did really hard work for the test, but for some reason, she got some low number in that test. So obviously she is feeling sad about it. She told her parents about the result. And their reaction was something like “A, why you got those poor numbers, you should’ve gotten a better number. We’re spending so much money on you to have this poor number? I think you’re not studying well. You’re becoming a burden to us. You’re a loser. you can never be good enough”.
So, now think, what will be the effect of those toxic words on her? she was already feeling sad for not getting a good result even after studying so hard, but now with her parent’s unsupportive words she will start to believe those words and start to think that she is really a loser or she will never be good enough. Those negative thoughts will turn into hate and she will start to hate herself.
Now think, if his parent's reaction was different, would she have had to go through all this? Let’s see
She told her parents about her result. And their response was, "Hey, it's okay, don't be sorry. There's nothing to be upset about. I know you worked hard for this test. But people not always get the proper result. You always do great in your tests. So, it doesn't matter if you get a low score this once. Don't worry about it. I hope, you will do great in your next test.”
Now as you know, she was sad about her result, but with her parent’s understanding and supportive attitude will motive her to think positively. It will also help her to gain confidence again and she will try her best to do good in her next test without hating herself.
When we feel intense dislike for something or someone is called hate.
Why do people hate themselves?
There is a lot of reasons why people could hate themselves. But one of the most important reasons why people hate themselves is low-self-esteem. The relation between you and your inner self is really weak than the other relationship you have. Because we don't trust ourselves enough. If any person told us that they don't like our act or work. We instantly become insecure about it. We don’t have enough trust in ourselves to say that “it’s ok if you don’t like. I will try again and show you an even better version of this work or anything you’ve mentioned”.
Well, we all have insecurities. It’s normal! We all feel insecure one or another time. Some people can control their insecurities and live with it. Cause they know that no one is perfect. Everyone has flows. They will make a mistake but they will also learn from that and next time will try not to do the same mistake again. But the problem of this insecurity is, some people can’t control it. With every mistake, the insecurity starts to grow in them. At some point, the insecurity takes all over in their mind and it makes them feel like they’re not good enough or they never can do anything well. And this is when they start to hate themself.
Another reason for self-hate is comparing yourself to other people. Everyone has a different life, struggle, and imperfections. The problem of comparison is a simple “I’ll never look like her” can quickly spiral into “I’ll never be good enough for anyone” You will look into the mirror and the same thought will be back. You will start to overthink. This will cause you to hate yourself, depression, and frustration.
So, please don’t do that. The thing you’re good at, your friend might not be good at that or maybe your friend has something which you don’t have. nobody can be perfect. Everyone has flows. The people you see as perfect is not actually perfect. They just show you one side of them. You don’t know their whole story. They also feel insecure and fight battle just like you. So, try to be grateful for what you have.
Who can help people from hating themselves?
In this case, most can help is the parents. The attitude of parents plays a big role in people’s self-confidence or low self-esteem. For example, A is a good student and she did really hard work for the test, but for some reason, she got some low number in that test. So obviously she is feeling sad about it. She told her parents about the result. And their reaction was something like “A, why you got those poor numbers, you should’ve gotten a better number. We’re spending so much money on you to have this poor number? I think you’re not studying well. You’re becoming a burden to us. You’re a loser. you can never be good enough”.
So, now think, what will be the effect of those toxic words on her? she was already feeling sad for not getting a good result even after studying so hard, but now with her parent’s unsupportive words she will start to believe those words and start to think that she is really a loser or she will never be good enough. Those negative thoughts will turn into hate and she will start to hate herself.
Now think, if his parent's reaction was different, would she have had to go through all this? Let’s see
She told her parents about her result. And their response was, "Hey, it's okay, don't be sorry. There's nothing to be upset about. I know you worked hard for this test. But people not always get the proper result. You always do great in your tests. So, it doesn't matter if you get a low score this once. Don't worry about it. I hope, you will do great in your next test.”
Now as you know, she was sad about her result, but with her parent’s understanding and supportive attitude will motive her to think positively. It will also help her to gain confidence again and she will try her best to do good in her next test without hating herself.
The behavior of our parent matters. Not only the parents, everyone's behavior matters, the people around us. So, please be kind to everyone.
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Nice blog dear I hope to read your similar good blogs in future also
ReplyDeleteI will try my best.
DeleteThanks for your appreciative words.
Nicely Written
ReplyDeleteBeautifully written🌼
ReplyDeleteExcellent. Informative and interesting. It's a good content.
ReplyDeleteVery well said, main reason is underestimating ourselves for no reason as everyone should know each and everyone is not equal in every field. One is perfect in his own.
ReplyDeleteThank you, we should all accept our-self the way we are
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